Lack Self-Discipline? Here’s Why (and How to Fix It)

by Andrea Blundell Have the best of intentions? But terrible carry through? Why is it that some of us seem born with self-discipline, and the rest of us flounder? The holy grail of self-control Self-discipline, along with conscientiousness and perseverance, are a triad that form the ‘holy grail’ of self-control, a hot topic right across … [Read Entire Story]

Always Disorganised? Why Your Life is Such a Mess

by Andrea Blundell Feel like you were born disorganised? Always been a bit of a mess? Messy house, messy finances, messy relationships, messy thinking, even? Tried all the tips — making lists, decluttering, doing one thing at a time — and still can’t keep up?  Am I just the creative type? Blame it on being … [Read Entire Story]

What is Neuroticism? And is this Your Personality?

Have you been called neurotic? And are left wondering, “what is neuroticism, really?” What is neuroticism? Imagine a line. On one end of the line is a perfectly balanced person. Always emotionally calm and centred, they feel safe and confident in the world. On the other end is someone who is so overwhelmed by their emotions [&# [Read Entire Story]

What Sarcasm Means About Your Mental Health

by Andrea Blundell Known for your wit and humour? But of the sarcastic kind? What does sarcasm mean about you, really? The meaning of sarcastic Sarcasm is far more than just being funny.  It’s clear even in the dictionary definition of, “using remarks that clearly mean the opposite of what you say, in order to … [Read Entire Story]

10 Signs of Emotional Maturity – Do You Measure Up?

by Andrea Blundell Yes, we might be grownups in these parts, at least physically. Emotional maturity can come far, far later…. Or we might not even quite be there yet. What is emotional maturity, really, and do you have it? What is emotional maturity? Emotional maturity means we are responsible for, and in control of, … [Read Entire Story]

Talk too Much? Why You’re Garrulous (and How to Stop)

by Andrea Blundell Talk too much, to the point it leaves you feeling rejected or embarrassed? Or dealing with a garrulous colleague or family member, and struggling to have empathy? Why do I talk too much? Some people are naturally more talkative. Scientists have found, for example, that girls have more of communication-related gene called … [Read Entire Story]

How to be Brave (Even When You Are Afraid)

by Andrea Blundell Been avoiding a confrontation? Or something you want to do in life, but haven’t had the courage? Learning how to be brave can be easier than you think.  What is bravery, really? Yes, in emergency situations, we can be instinctively brave. Our brains take over, flooding our bodies with chemicals like adrenaline … [Read Entire Story]

Is it a ‘Superiority Complex’ that’s the Problem?

Is a colleague or acquaintance so full of themselves it makes you want to scream? Alway bragging and showing off? Is it a superiority complex, or something different? And why does it matter? The original definition of ‘superiority complex’ A ‘superiority complex’ is a term that was first coined in the early 1900s by respected … [Read Entire Story]

How to Stand Up For Yourself – 9 Steps That Really Help

by Andrea Blundell Is there a situation in your life you’ve let go on for far too long? And you know you need to stand up for yourself? Where to start? 9 Steps to standing up for yourself in life 1. Make sure you’ve read the situation right. Sometimes our thinking isn’t correct. We can … [Read Entire Story]

Cosmetic Surgery and Mental Health – Can You Cope?

Dream of doing an optional cosmetic procedure, in hopes it will change your life? Cosmetic surgery and mental health are deeply connected, and there are many things to consider before an operation.  The positive effects of plastic surgery When it comes to cosmetic surgery and mental health, it’s true that there can be positive results. … [Read Entire Story]

“Why do I Always Have Bad Luck”? (Hint: It Might Be You)

By Andrea Blundell Always have bad luck compared to everyone around you? Feel like you were born under a bad star? And spend your life telling everyone who will listen one unbelievable story after another? Why is it you are always the unlucky one? You might have more control over this than you think. Bad … [Read Entire Story]

Oversharing Syndrome – the Truth About Too Much Info

by Andrea Blundell Oversharing can feel good in the moment, but can have not so great consequences. So why do we keep doing it? Compulsive vs intentional oversharing Yes, we can all purposely overshare when we are outraged or upset, and want people on our side. And you just have to look at social media … [Read Entire Story]

Peter Pan Syndrome – Is It Always a Bad Thing?

Feel like everyone wants you to be something you aren’t? Been told you need to ‘grow up’, or that you have ‘Peter Pan syndrome’? What is Peter Pan syndrome? No, it is not a real psychological diagnosis. But it’s a helpful catch phrase to refer to other mental health issues. Peter Pan syndrome refers to … [Read Entire Story]

Always Feeling Regretful? When It’s More Than Bad Choices

by Andrea Blundell Left feeling regretful with every decision you make? With a sense of sorrow for all the things that might have been? Is regret always a bad thing? Sometimes we really do make a bad decision, and our regret guides us to change for the better. If we, say, lie [Read Entire Story]

Never Reach Your Full Potential? 7 Reasons Why

by Andrea Blundell You try so darned hard. And yet here you are, still struggling. Or you have done what you thought would make you feel accomplished, but you don’t. Why is it you never seem to reach your full potential? 1. You don’t know yourself. This can come from a childhood where you only … [Read Entire Story]

Ignorance Is Bliss – Or is It? The Cost of Playing Dumb

By Andrea Blundell “Ignorance is bliss”. Is it true? Or do we need to examine our belief that what we don’t know won’t hurt us, particularly when it comes to things like racism and inequality? What is ignorance, really? It’s easy to say that ignorance is simply ‘not knowing’. But sociology would argue otherwise. Ignorance … [Read Entire Story]

Personal Accountability – Why You Need More of It, Now

by Andrea Blundell Often feel a letdown, no matter how hard you try? Or has someone insinuated you need to ‘grow up’ a bit? Sounds like it’s time for some personal accountability. What is personal accountability? Relax. Personal accountability isn’t about being organised all the time, perfect, or an overachiever. It simply means you choose … [Read Entire Story]

Personal Power – 11 Ways to Grow Yours

by Andrea Blundell Want more personal power? Or just to stop feeling so helpless and lost? But not sure where to start?  What is personal power? Personal power is not about controlling others. This is social power. Personal power is instead about being totally detached from others and their opinions, and instead attached to your … [Read Entire Story]

Attention-Seeking Behaviour – Guiltier Than You Realise?

Have you been accused of attention-seeking behaviour? What might this look like, why would you do it, and what can be done to turn a need for attention into something more beneficial? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell addresses this important issue. What is attention-seeking behaviour? Some kinds of attention seeking are more obvious than … [Read Entire Story]

People Pleaser? 12 Signs You Are One (and Why)

Have you been called a people pleaser, and you aren’t sure it is true? Or how you ended up this way? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores. What is a people pleaser? So what is the meaning of ‘people pleaser’? It refers to a constant need to put others needs before your own. This … [Read Entire Story]

“I Don’t Belong” – Can’t Find Your Place in the World?

Constantly left feeling, “I don’t belong?” Even when surrounded by so-called ‘friends’? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores the issue of ‘belongingness’.  What is belonging? Belonging is defined as feeling part of a group, whether that is a family, a set of friends, or a workplace. Psychologist Abraham Maslow, in his famous model about … [Read Entire Story]

Need to Be Right Every Time? Here’s Why (and the Real Cost)

Do people tell you that you are obsessed with being right, but you aren’t sure it’s true? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell investigates.  Signs you need to be right Balk at being told you are righteous? And immediately have reasons to protest why you are not? But reasons that, well…. put you above others? … [Read Entire Story]

More Self-Critical Than You Realise? 11 Signs to Spot

Being self-critical is a serious problem. Research connects it to a greater risk of depression*, self-harm**, and eating disorders***. And yet many of us don’t realise just how much self-criticism is our norm, until we find ourselves in therapy, listening more closely to our thoughts. What are the signs that you are actually a self-critical … [Read Entire Story]

Shame – is This Emotion Secretly Ruling Your Life?

Shame is a word we attribute with many meanings. We say we ‘feel ashamed’ if we mess up at work, or disappoint a partner. Or ‘don’t shame me’ if someone is putting us down. The examples above really talk about guilt – – our awareness that our actions have upset others. Shame might be triggered by a poor choice … [Read Entire Story]