Requested Repost: Betrayal

Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts at the same time). Betrayal is … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No-Contact Break-Up

Narcissist Free: A Survival Guide for the No Contact Break-Up… The No-Contact Rule is the only surefire method for ending the cycles of abuse with narcissists and other emotional manipulators. The dynamic of these relationships is so complex that it takes a very specific strategy to break the mental connection….to put distance between yourself and [More About This Book]

It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up Buddy

There’s no doubt about it—breakups suck. But in the first few hours or days or weeks that follow, there’s one important truth you need to recognize: Some things can’t and shouldn’t be fixed, especially that loser who dumped you or forced you to dump him. It’s called a breakup because it’s broken, and starting right [More About This Book]

D-bom Moments

For those new on the blog, this is another abbreviation we use around here, so this is how it began: “We see and understand more about our behaviors. We come aware. And aware. And aware. . . Often, we feel … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

New Workbook Button

This is the workbook button WITHOUT shipping charges!!! Sorry about that…PayPal error!!! [Read Entire Story]

First Day of Summer Workbook Special

To kick off an awesome healing summer, we’re offering the workbook – on line (fillable PDF) or off line (regular PDF) for $17.99 for the next 48 hours! It is normally $29.99 for non-members and $19.99 for members so this … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

The Switch Off…or not

Several weeks after my separation from my first husband I met a guy who seemed to be nice and funny and caring. I was still, very much, a hurting unit but he gave me attention in a way I had … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

5/25 Check in

How is everyone doing??? [Read Entire Story]

WWL2M Facebook Group

We are moving away from the Yahoo group (too much spam) and onto Facebook so we can ascertain identities. It is a closed group but will become a secret group by the end of the week. If you want to … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

May NC Chips

It has been a long time since we did NC Chips and there is a lot about NC in the recent threads so I think it’s time for one. For those of you who are new, this post explains the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Registration, spammers and “Really?”

to combat spammers and keep actual people from being mistaken as robots I now authenticate users as they register. There are about 100 spammers trying to register each day and I just delete them a few times a day. To … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Signs of Relationship Recovery

I run this a couple of times a year. It’s from Women Who Love Too Much but it can be applied for anyone recovering from unhealthy relationships. These are signs that you are INDEED recovering. As someone who went from … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Standards – Are Yours High Enough?

“You get what you put up with.” – Anonymous My first post-divorce boyfriend wrote me a letter once. I was so thrilled because even though we hadn’t spoken in weeks and I couldn’t figure out why we were not speaking, … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]


to combat spammers and keep actual people from being mistaken as robots I now authenticate users as they register. There are about 100 spammers trying to register each day and I just delete them. To register to post on the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

On Being Alone

What a lovely surprise to finally discover how unlonely being alone can be ~ Ellen Burstyn Many times we stay in unhealthy relationships because we are afraid of being “alone”. In reality we are afraid of being with ourselves. And … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Achieving HAPPY

“If we’d stop trying to be happy we could have a pretty good time.” – Edith Wharton The holidays tend to push someone else’s idea of happiness upon us. We are told Christmas is the “most wonderful time of the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

May 16th Retreat

I have to let Natalie know if we’re on or not and I need to know who is interested by 4/15. I am working with Founder’s Inn & Spa in Virginia Beach VA and Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim to … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Hangout – Bootcamps

Very excited that the first Bootcamp Hangout is SOLD OUT in about 12 hours! Awesome group that is going to be participating. Good mix of men/women and different lengths of relationships and breakup time. We will report back when it … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

4/9 Check in thread

The last one appears to be lost in the shuffle. HOW IS EVERYONE DOING??? Check in here! [Read Entire Story]

May 16th Women’s Retreat

We have not opened registration yet, but Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim is coming from London to co-host with me at the Founder’s Inn & Spa in Virginia Beach. If you are interested, please let me know so I can … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You

I have written over 2000 post on this blog in 7 years. This is the most requested and referenced (on other websites) of them all. It’s hard but it happens. And it hurts. You love someone who may have loved … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

February Retreat Should Have Been Attendees (Women)

Ladies of the February Retreat – those who registered – whether you went for the weekend or not: we are rescheduling for May 16th. When I say “we” I mean me and Natalie Lue of Baggage Reclaim (ALL THE WAY … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Nonsense Talk

“Everyone deserves a second chance.” I have no idea where this comes from…maybe the same place where “Be a bigger person.” comes from or a million other stupid expressions that helps keep people stuck. Everyone does NOT deserve a second … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Rationalizations and Justifications

A friend of mine once told me that “To Thine Own Self Be True” could be translated to “Bullshit thyself not.” Self bullshit is the worst kind of bullshit. Do not say stupid things to yourself in an effort to … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]