Being Free of Suffering Is Not Happiness

On the path to spiritual freedom, you’ll notice that spiritual freedom teachers talk in a lot of “negatives.” We talk in what things are NOT or what we don’t have.So I may talk about letting go of attachments to your mother. You no longer have them. They are NOT part of your experience anymore. Because those attachments are gone, you no longer suffer when and if you relate to her.But that doesn’t make your experience with your mother happy.Happiness is just one of many experiences, and if it arises naturally, then it arises. Then it will pass. All experiences come and go. On the path to spiritual freedom, we surrender our attachments to what experiences may come. We do … [Read Entire Story]

Respect Me or GTFO

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Boundaries & Standards In Relationships

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Choosing, Allowing, or Seeking Happiness

Our relationship to happiness is an interesting one. Being happy is one of many people's biggest goals, and yet people often struggle with being happy. It's one of the goals many spiritual seekers have and why they come to the spiritual path.In general, I've found that there are at least three different types of relationships to happiness. They are choosing happiness, allowing happiness, and seeking happiness.Let's explore what that means.Seeking Happiness: The Search for Fulfillment [Read Entire Story]

Intro to Spiritual Freedom Class

Almost no one is ready to properly understand spiritual freedom. Again and again, I've had people come to me unprepared, and this class (subsequent classes) is meant to help prepare you for something that makes no sense to the dominant Western belief system.In short, we live in a time where the dominant Western Society message is that everyone can have everything all the time. It is obviously a lie, but it is so pervasive that most people subconsciously believe it. … [Read Entire Story]

Your Beliefs Are Not Real

It is a strange time that we live in. Thanks to the Internet, we can disseminate all kinds of information across all kinds of borders to people of all walks of life–so long as they can access the Internet. This is wonderful!However, we can also create any and all kinds of beliefs and find countless other people to reinforce any crazy thing that we want to have reinforced. These echo chambers reflect back our beliefs over and over again to help us … [Read Entire Story]

The Humbling Process in Becoming a True Teacher

Anyone who realizes anything on this spiritual path typically goes through a humbling process.It's humbling to see that we aren't who we thought we were.It's humbling to see that many of our assumptions about life aren't true.It's humbling to see how much suffering we've caused ourselves and others.It's humbling to know that most if not all of that suffering was unnecessary.There is so much to be humbled about, and as I said, most anyone who is sincerely on this path will be humbled. But for those who truly are called to teach, more humbling is required. It's required because you'… [Read Entire Story]

When Success No Longer Interests You

People spend a lot of time trying to succeed.They try to succeed at looking attractive.They try to succeed at making money.They try to succeed at winning argumentsThey try to succeed at starting a family.They try to succeed at maintaining a family.Some even try to succeed at having the most pathetic life. I know that sounds odd, but sometimes, there are people who give up on one kind of success and then try to claim another. There are people who are legitimately succeeding at a pity-party life.Well, I won't talk too much about the last one, and the overall point is that the drive to succeed is powerful. It has many forms. Yet… [Read Entire Story]

No One Owns the Truth

Many spiritual paths go to great lengths to lay claim to "the Truth." But the reality is no one owns the truth. If anything, we are owned by it. Yet somehow, people (individually or in specific spiritual traditions) claim to have it. They know it, and they can give it to … [Read Entire Story]

Stay Up-to-date with me in 2021

I hope your 2021 is off to a good start. This is a general reminder that the best way to stay in touch with me is through my free newsletter. I have quite a bit going on, and the newsletter is my first stop for a whole variety of announcements.Those announcements include things like:space in my schedule for new students,space for a mentee (this is someone whom I teach how to teach),free talks… [Read Entire Story]

Spiritual Awakening Anxiety and 6 Reasons It Arises

After more than 10 years of writing, I've written and re-written about a lot of topics. I'm sure I've written about the arising of fear after awakening, but I haven't called it anxiety.After a quick search engine check, my goodness, I've realized that a lot of people talk about spiritual awakening and anxiety.So I might as well too.If you're new to this spiritual awakening blog, you can best stay in touch with me by signing up for my free newsletter here:Join The Wake Up Call NewsletterRespecting the Many Kinds of [Read Entire Story]

3 Types of Conscious Suffering

Nothing I'm about to say is new. It's just another way to say the same thing.Conscious suffering is the ego grind I've mentioned before. It's where we now understand that we are the witness, and we are watching our mind, heart, and body do what they've been… [Read Entire Story]

I Don’t Care About Your Bliss

I don't care about your bliss.And neither should you.In the last couple of months, it seems that my inbox has gotten more questions regarding blissful experiences than usual, so I guess it's time to discuss spiritual bliss again.The term bliss is immediately a problem because of its positive connotations and associations with joy, love, happiness, and so forth. This is on top of the fact that everyone experiences things differently anyone. One person's bliss is different from another's.Regardless, I don't care about happy, pleasurable experiences, … [Read Entire Story]

Overwhelmed by Gratitude for Your Teacher

I talk a fair amount about the spiritual student-teacher relationship because it is so unique. There are few other relationships that are comparable to it. Oftentimes, I discuss the qualities of love and hate that the student feels towards their teacher, and those are primarily part of the ego like/dislike program. But some … [Read Entire Story]

3 Questions to Ask Someone Fighting to Live

Death is part of this world.It's not a topic I discuss too much on this blog because I'm largely trying to help people learn how to live from the space of freedom before death comes a-knocking. But sometimes, death comes before that. Sometimes, a death of a loved one is a catalyst for someone's spiritual journey. Or a near-death experience for the individual him/herself jolts them into an inquiry into truth and life.Regardless, death is… [Read Entire Story]

Update on 2020 Winter Break Donations

Thanks to everyone who has donated to help support my annual winter break. Thus far, 31 people have donated nearly $1900!Thank you all!That means we’re only $100 away from my goal of $2,000 to cover the week and a half break I’ll be taking from December 23rd to January 2nd.If you’d like to help, you can donate via PayPal at the link below.Donate to Support Jim’s Annual Time for RestYou can read more about my annual break and all the things that I do and offer for free through each year on this link.Learn More About Jim’s Offerings and … [Read Entire Story]

When the Spiritual Path REALLY Hits You

There are moments when what the spiritual path really Is hits you. I'm not talking about any initial spiritual shift. The initial shifts typically show us rather obvious personal issues that we've been ignoring. In the more enjoyable initial spiritual experiences, we often glimpse a piece of reality, but we have no idea what it means to surrender to reality yet. Actually, most of … [Read Entire Story]

Donating to Support my 2020 Winter Break

Once again, the time is coming for me to take some time off and re-charge. As I like to remind my heavily Western audience, rest is a critical part of our self-care. We can't constantly be doing stuff.Each year, I reach out to all of you about donating to cover the lost income of my not working, and each year, many of you step up and do so. Thank you!This year, I'm looking to take my usual week and a half off, and I need about $2,000 to cover that time. If we reach that goal, the next goal is $6,000 to help me cover some… [Read Entire Story]

Adding Wisdom to Star Wars The Last Jedi

Today, I feel like departing from my usual blog post style to talk a little bit about cultural mythology and its power. If this isn't your cup of tea, feel free to check out one of these posts:Suffering Is GraceThe First Spiritual Teacher for Most PeopleAwakening (This is one of the main tabs on this blog with multiple spiritual awakening posts.)Okay, for those of you who are still here, let's talk about the power of cultural mythology and Star Wars, why and how that particular mythology is important; and [Read Entire Story]

Having Problems Seeing My Videos?

I recently updated my cookie-blocker tool, and it’s now automatically blocking my embedded videos unless people accept “marketing” cookies, which almost no one does.While I sort this problem out, you can always find my videos on my YouTube channel here. Please feel free to subscribe if you haven’t already.Jim’s YouTube ChannelYou can also change your cookie consent to allow “marketing” cookies on the following link. I personally don’t do anything with marketing cookies in terms of tracking you, and I don’t sell information. However, somehow I have Amazon and Oracle cookies in the marketing category on my blog.Change [Read Entire Story]

Try this New Spiritual Tool: A Regular Media Free Day

With so much media and information being hurled at us every day, having time to detox from it all is increasingly critical to good mental and physical health. And while it is very rare to find a truly new spiritual tool, today I’m talking about one–the media-free day.I encourage everyone reading this to have at least one day each week where they don’t do anything with media. That includes:InternetTelevisionRadioVideo gamesMusicMoviesTabletComputerE-readersPhoneand whatever other kind of media and/or technology tool is absorbing your attentionNow, this is a practical spiritual tool. So if you’re waiting to find out if you got the job or if your wife… [Read Entire Story]

What Is Consciousness?

Consciousness is an alive, aware field that is ALL things.There’s not much to say beyond that because if I write too much, I’ll take you further from the truth. Too much intellectualizing turns consciousness into a thing, a belief, an idea. But this is not what Consciousness Is.Rumi often talks in his poems about how his “pen breaks” or he just falls silent when he gets to certain points on the spiritual path. This is one such a place.So I’ll stop the words now and fall into the reverence of silence.Melting Into SilenceDissolving Into Pure Consciousness [Read Entire Story]

Opening to Emptiness

I was on vacation driving out through the deserts of the West when this image caught my attention. I was by a dry lake bed, and I felt moved to take a picture of this place, although it doesn’t do it justice.There’s something about certain types of desert that feels opening to me. It’s like the emptiness of the space calls out the true emptiness inside, and the little me dissolves further into its natural open spaciousness.For more thoughts on this topic, you can check out these blog posts.Feeling Uneasy in SpaciousnessOpening Up to Deeper Levels of Love (Recording) [Read Entire Story]

5 Misunderstandings About Spiritual Freedom

Spiritual freedom is often badly misunderstood, so I wanted to talk about some common misconceptions about it in today's blog post.A bonus misconception that I'll add is that many people think that one singular spiritual moment will immediately dissolve all their ego forever, but that's not typically how it is. Thus, spiritual awakening has been misunderstood as one of those singular moments, but it is only a starting point on the path to spiritual freedom.  It's best to look go of the search for that ONE moment to fix/change everything.Please share this link if the post is helpful. Enjoy!1 You Can Do Whatever You Want [Read Entire Story]