Skills for Healthy Romantic Relationships | Joanne Davila | TEDxSBU

Nostalgia – is Missing the Past Good or Bad for You?

Often think about your past? Or wish you could go back in time and have the life you had? Or the world we all once had before the coronavirus pandemic? Nostalgia has direct implications on our mental health. What is nostalgia? Nostalgia is a longing for our past, albeit a possibly romanticised version. We can … [Read Entire Story]

Do “Energy Vampires” Really Exist? The Real Danger You Need to Know

by Andrea Blundell Are ‘energy vampires’ really a thing, from the point of view of psychotherapy? And is the term helpful, or is it possibly dangerous? What is an ‘energy vampire? An ‘energy vampire’ or ‘emotional vampire’ isn’t, evidently, a clinical term or a diagnosis. It’s instead a modern shorthand for someone who leaves [Read Entire Story]

Peter Pan Syndrome – Is It Always a Bad Thing?

Feel like everyone wants you to be something you aren’t? Been told you need to ‘grow up’, or that you have ‘Peter Pan syndrome’? What is Peter Pan syndrome? No, it is not a real psychological diagnosis. But it’s a helpful catch phrase to refer to other mental health issues. Peter Pan syndrome refers to … [Read Entire Story]

Always Complaining? – Moaning and Mental Health

by Andrea Blundell Complaining about something you’ve been holding onto for ages with a good friend leaves you feeling better. But when a colleague and you complain with each other about your boss yet again, you feel drained. What does it all mean? In the end, is moaning good or bad for you? It does … [Read Entire Story]

Is What Your Partner Did Sexually Abusive?

Did your partner cross a line sexually, and you are wondering if it is or isn’t sexually abusive? What is and isn’t a sexually abusive relationship as two adults? What is sexual abuse in a relationship? Sexual abuse in adult relationships, also called ‘intimate partner sexual violence’, is unwanted sexual activity you’ve been made to … [Read Entire Story]

Accepting What Is – Is It Really a Good Idea?

by Andrea Blundell Does your life always have a conflict or two on the go? Constantly dreaming of being somewhere else? Or fighting your way forward? Accepting what is could be a tool you need. What is acceptance? In psychology, acceptance is closely linked to allowing, and to the present moment. What is happening right … [Read Entire Story]

Compromise in Relationships – the Good, the Bad, and How to Tell the Difference

by Andrea Blundell Unless you are dating or friends with your own personal clone, you are going to at some point face a difference of opinion. How you compromise in relationships will either make or eventually break your connection. Define compromise in relationships? Compromise in relationships is about meeting in the middle. You find a … [Read Entire Story]

Emotional Self Regulation – What is it All About?

Act before you think? Say things only to regret all? Explode your emotions onto others despite promising not to? Your issue might be emotional self-regulation. What is emotional self regulation? Emotional self-regulation is psychology speak for an ability to control your emotional responses in an acceptable and productive way. You know how to take charge … [Read Entire Story]

Emotional Self Regulation – Struggle to Stay Calm?

Act before you think? Say things only to regret all? Explode your emotions onto others despite promising not to? Your issue might be emotional self-regulation. What is emotional self regulation? Emotional self-regulation is psychology speak for an ability to control your emotional responses in an acceptable and productive way. You know how to take charge … [Read Entire Story]

9 Ways Defensiveness is Ruining Your Relationships

by Andrea Blundell Does your partner or friend keep saying, ‘you are so defensive’? Which just makes you feel, well… like you need to defend yourself? It might be time to consider how defensiveness is damaging your relationships. How Defensiveness Ruins Your Relationships 1. It makes you a very bad listener. When we are defensive, … [Read Entire Story]

9 Ways to Handle Feeling Hurt

Has someone you loved betrayed you? A friend left you feeling rejected? Or a colleague let you down? What can you do if you are left feeling hurt? What to Do If You Are Feeling Hurt 1. Let yourself feel what you need to feel.   Repressing our emotions can be like keeping a beach … [Read Entire Story]

Narcissistic Parenting – Was This Your Childhood?

by Andrea Blundell Often wonder if your current issues have to do with the way you were parented? And worry that the lack of unconditional love but copious amounts of control you dealt with as a child might mean you suffered narcissistic parenting? A study published in the International Journal of Psychology and Psychological Therapy … [Read Entire Story]

Lying in Relationships – Is it Really a Big Deal?

by Andrea Blundell How serious is lying in relationships – are you overreacting? And why do you keep attracting liars? Do we all lie? An oft-quoted American study on how often we lie a day came in at between once to twice (1.65 times, to be exact). It’s true that lying is part of the … [Read Entire Story]

Why Does Love Hurt? And How to Make it Stop

by Andrea Blundell Just out of a relationship, or love someone who doesn’t love you back? And can’t keep wondering, why does love hurt?  Why does love hurt? Feeling ‘in emotional pain’ isn’t just you being dramatic. Researchers have discovered that your brain processes emotional upset with the same brain circuitry that processes physical injury. … [Read Entire Story]

Stereotypes – Why We Make Them and How to Stop

It’s easy to assume that stereotypes  are ‘over there’. Something that  ‘ignorant’ and ‘bad’ people are doing, not us. But if we look at it from a psychological angle, the truth is not that simple. What is a stereotype? When we stereotype, we paint an entire group of people with the same brush. And it’s … [Read Entire Story]

Ignorance Is Bliss – Or is It? The Cost of Playing Dumb

By Andrea Blundell “Ignorance is bliss”. Is it true? Or do we need to examine our belief that what we don’t know won’t hurt us, particularly when it comes to things like racism and inequality? What is ignorance, really? It’s easy to say that ignorance is simply ‘not knowing’. But sociology would argue otherwise. Ignorance … [Read Entire Story]

Standards and Boundaries

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Reaching Out Hard? 12 Keys to Getting Support

by Andrea Blundell Read advice that tells you that if you feel low, just ‘reach out’? But attempts you have made (if any) have gone poorly and left you feeling bad? Reaching out is a skill that not all of us learned as a child or were encouraged to do. On a good note, skills … [Read Entire Story]

On Each Other’s Nerves? How to Navigate “Coronavirus Relationship Conflict”

by Andrea Blundell Is being cooped up during a pandemic about to ruin your relationship? How to navigate conflict when self-isolating together? 10 Ways to Navigate Conflict in Lockdown 1. Lower expectations. Thought coronavirus lockdown would be a time of great bonding, only to find it’s a time of great bickering? Cut yourself and the … [Read Entire Story]

Keep Making the Same Mistake Again and Again?

From small things like continuing to overspend when you know you are in debt, to bigger issues like picking unhealthy relationships every time, what is it that drives you to keep making the same mistake?  Blame it on Your Brain? Our brains might be designed to repeat mistakes, creating what are called ‘mistake pathways’. Although … [Read Entire Story]

Letting Go and Moving On Hard? This Might Be Why

Holding onto partners and friendships long past their expiry date? Or can’t seem to leave a depressing job?  Letting go and moving on is never easy. But if you find it harder than most, it might mean there are deeper issues at play. Just not the letting go and moving on type?  Yes, personality can … [Read Entire Story]

Never Ask for Help? 9 Real Reasons You Always Go It Alone

by Andrea Blundell Are you the type who does everything by yourself? And even if it leaves you exhausted, never ask for help? Because it just seems easier somehow not to? Never allowing support can be a form of self-sabotage. And if you feel guilty or scared to ask for help, then there will be … [Read Entire Story]

Is Emotional Intensity Ruining Your Relationships?

by Andrea Blundell Think you are good at connecting and intimacy, but somehow always losing friends and partners and feeling alone? You might be mistaking emotional intensity for intimacy. What is emotional intensity? If you are emotionally intense, you will experience feelings in a bigger, more immediate way than an average person. Everything just seems … [Read Entire Story]