10 Things You Need to Know About Real Love

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Closure Redux

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I have been doing workshops in NYC since 2006. I LOVE doing them but I used to do them through the Learning Annex and they don’t really support weekend workshops (GPYB/GPYP really needs an entire weekend). I have been asked … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Leaving the Abusive Relationship

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Requested Repost: Betrayal

Betrayal is the willful slaughter of hope. ~ Steven Dietz Betrayal may be described as simply the breaking of trust. It’s when we trust someone and they break that trust (and usually our hearts at the same time). Betrayal is … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Workbook V2

I’m releasing Workbook 2.0 in February. If you have any comments or suggestions for changes or additions, please let me know. Editing is going on now! [Read Entire Story]

Registering for the Blog

Sticky’d for those who are new about registering and posting your first comments. I know it’s not straightforward. Go to any post and click Comments. On the bottom of the screen is a comments box that says “You must be … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]


Several have emailed me. I have no openings in December and will be posting January openings around the 15th. January’s schedule is up. Please see above. I am also starting a bootcamp which will have an on-line and a video … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Workbook Sale Ends Friday Night (US-Eastern) at 11:00 pm

I’ve had the workbook for sale over the holiday season and it will revert to regular price on Friday night 11 pm New York time. Thank you! [Read Entire Story]

Your Right To Swing Your Arm….

…ends at the tip of my nose. Reposting this as I mentioned it in comments. I wrote it about 4 or 5 years ago and reposted it a time or two since. Since I wrote this, I’ve gotten much better … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

GPYB Seminar Series and Study Hall

Seminar Series and Study Hall Starts On 1/2 We will go through the books and workbooks. You can join at any time, you can post your journals (or portions), affirmations, goals and inventories (again as much or as little as … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

12/28 Check In Thread

How is everyone doing? If you’re new and introduced yourself in the last check in thread, please feel free to copy your intro to here so everyone can see it. I have been setting up the study hall. It is … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Being Part of the Solution

I post a similar post every year. This is this year’s post. In 2016, Resolve To Be Part of the Solution [Read Entire Story]

If It Talks Like A Codep and Walks Like A Codep

I was watching Hot Bench and the plaintiff worked her butt off to put the defendant on his feet. When they met he had just gotten out of prison, didn’t have a job, had a suspended license. She paid bills, … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]


If you are new to the blog, please put your introduction in the check-in thread. It changes every few weeks (after 100 or so comments). If it changes right after you post, feel free to copy and post to the … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

When The Person …. Book!

I am working on the book length version of When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You. (you can click the link to read the article if you haven’t read it before). Although GPYB is for anyone who has been … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

The Wha-Wha-Working Too Hard Meltdown Revisit

Repost. It’s really easy to fall into the wha wha meltdown during the holidays. Getting better is not a contest with our oblivious ex who is just going on as if nothing happened. It’s not a contest with our friend … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

YouTube Breakup Series

The GPYB breakup recovery program began as a 12-week series either individually or in a group. I no longer offer them and would love to offer a modified version of them. I have been thinking for a long time as … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

12/12 Check In Thread

New check in thread! How is everyone doing? If you’re new, introduce yourself here!!! If you’re not new, check in here! [Read Entire Story]

New GPYB Videos

Closure and Questions You Really Don’t Want Answers To: Build Your Life and Stop Worrying About The Ex Click here to subscribe to GPYB YouTube Video Channel [Read Entire Story]

Friends With The Ex?

one of the first posts that went viral on here was “Can I Be Friends With the Ex?” which was based on a letter a student wrote me. In honor of the blog’s 9th anniversary, I rewrote it and posted … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

The Annual Holiday Post

Every year since 2006 I have posted this. HOLD ON. No matter what. HOLD ON. “I cannot believe I’m alone on Christmas Eve.” – me (December 1987) We had separated in February. February 1st. I was anxious and depressed and … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Psychology Today Posts

Some have asked for some posts/topics that are now residing on the PT blog. : When The Person You Love Doesn’t Love You Love on the Rebound 10 Things To Know About Real Love Resolving Our Anger At Narcissists Getting … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]

Wisdom Born of Pain and Growth from Hanging in There

Sully: Hang in there. Toby: Hang in there? That’s the sum of your wisdom on the subject? Sully: That’s the sum of my wisdom on most subjects. ~ Nobody’s Fool (film) written by Robert Benton 1994 Sometimes the simplest advice … Continue reading → [Read Entire Story]