Help, My Job is Killing Me! Work and Losing the Will to Live

Really unhappy at work and feel like your job is slowing killing you? If you are losing the will to live, it’s a serious issue. Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores. *if you are feeling like you might really hurt yourself or others, please call emergency services or go to the nearest A&E. If … [Read Entire Story]

What is ‘Evidence-Based’ Therapy, Practise and Treatment?

You might have seen the term ‘evidence-based’ on different psychology and psychotherapy sites. It sounds impressive — but what does it really mean? A Definition of ‘Evidence-Based’ The term ‘evidence based’ means that the best available facts and information have been taken into account. It’s a term mostly used in connection to health services, although … [Read Entire Story]

Always Moving Too Fast in a Relationship? 9 Reasons Why

Most of us know that one couple who rushed in and stayed together. But for the most part, moving too fast in a relationship and relying on sudden infatuation is an experience that ends as quickly as it began – and often with a bump. What makes you the sort who always promises ‘never again’ but then can’t … [Read Entire Story]

New Year New You? Try This First

With all the focus on making resolutions for a ‘new year, new you‘ there is one crucial oversight. Progress doesn’t happen if we are stuck in a pattern, and patterns happen when we don’t resolve past experiences. If you find yourself setting the same New Years resolutions every January without ever truly achieving them – then … [Read Entire Story]

5 Reasons Your New Year’s Resolutions Never Work

Do you set the same New Years resolutions every January, but they never come to pass? There might be valid (and changeable) reasons why. 5 Reasons Your New year’s Resolutions Fail 1. You have Limiting Core beliefs. Core beliefs are deep-rooted assumptions about ourselves, others, and the world, that we form based on our experiences as a child. Unless … [Read Entire Story]

Dealing With Difficult People (Yes, Even Your In-Laws!) 

From cranky relatives to annoying colleagues, how can you best navigate difficult people this holiday season? 1. Show up calm. Yes, you can.  Being grounded when dealing with difficult people means the battle is half won – they are way less likely to trigger you. Sound impossible given the stress of the season? It isn’t. Resetting your … [Read Entire Story]

Keeping Secrets From Family – Is it Always Bad?

Keeping secrets from family is not only distracting, it can stop us from connecting to others and leave us lonely and misunderstood. But if you have a secret, do you owe it to your family to share it? Not necessarily. Why do we keep secrets ? There are, sadly, those amongst us who keep secrets … [Read Entire Story]

Dual Diagnosis Treatment for Addiction – The Best Way Forward?

If your idea of treatment for addiction is based on recent television and movies (group therapy, recovery centres) you might already know about dual diagnosis treatment without realising it.   An approach to addiction that involves both dealing with your substance abuse and your mental health, dual diagnosis treatment is increasingly the preferred treatment. But this was not actually … [Read Entire Story]

Trouble Achieving Goals? 10 Psychological Issues That Affect Success

Every year you make new goals for yourself. You set them right, using the SMART method, and things seem so promising…. at first. But somehow, you never seem to quite achieve what you mean to. What is truly behind your fear of success and self-sabotage? Could it be one of the psychological issues below, known … [Read Entire Story]

7 Ways to Manage the Stress Of Terrorism Hitting Close to Home

If you were in the same city or country as a terrorist attack, or even just a neighbouring country which has raised its national threat levels, you might experience overwhelming emotions and anxiety for several days or weeks post the event. How can you best handle the stress of terrorism when it strikes too close … [Read Entire Story]

The Christmas Blues – Why They Happen and How to Manage

Christmas cheer is a great concept. Yet it’s often far from the reality of this time of year, when depression becomes a battle for many. For some it all sadly becomes too much – the Office for National Statistics in the UK has previously reported up to a 3% rise in female suicides and a … [Read Entire Story]

Alcohol and Depression – Are You Drinking Yourself Sad?

The British public is hardly known for its restraint when it comes to alcohol – statistics show 9 out of 10 people in the UK are drinkers. According to the charity Alcohol Concern, the cost of all our drinking is a high one – the expenditure for the UK healthcare system is around £21 billion … [Read Entire Story]

Conflicting Parenting Styles – Is It Affecting Your Family?

; Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you love your spouse’s approach to raising kids.  Why do conflicting parenting styles happen? Most often, despite all the books we read about parenting, we tend to  rely on how we ourselves were raised. We attempt to build on what worked, and reshape what didn’t. [Read Entire Story]

Prone to Depression? Why Stress Might Be Harder For You

Depression – more common than you think? The World Health Organisation estimates that 350 million people are affected by depression worldwide, and sadly, many who suffer don’t seek help. Over 800,000 people commit suicide each year. Suicide is in fact the second leading global cause of death for the age range of 15-29. So what … [Read Entire Story]

Is it Really a Panic Attack?

You are asked to do a presentation at work and suddenly the room starts to spin, you are sweating and your heart is pounding with fear. Is it a panic attack? Or are you just anxious and stressed and experiencing an ‘anxiety attack’? And what is the difference, really?  Anxiety – what is it? It’s … [Read Entire Story]

What is Social Anxiety Disorder, and Do You Have It?

We can all be nervous about social situations from time to time, and many adults are shy around new people. But social anxiety disorder is actually a type of complex phobia – a condition that has an overwhelming impact on your life. If you have social anxiety disorder, also known as ‘social phobia’, everyday things, from … [Read Entire Story]

Shame – is This Emotion Secretly Ruling Your Life?

Shame is a word we attribute with many meanings. We say we ‘feel ashamed’ if we mess up at work, or disappoint a partner. Or ‘don’t shame me’ if someone is putting us down. The examples above really talk about guilt – – our awareness that our actions have upset others. Shame might be triggered by a poor choice … [Read Entire Story]

ADHD in Children – Should You Be Concerned?

Children are by their very nature full of energy and curiosity. Stuck in an adult world of rules they are still learning, they all can become bored with sitting still, forget what they’ve been told, and get distracted by something new and exciting. So then when does normal child behaviour cross the line into attention … [Read Entire Story]

Everyone Else’s Fault? How to Stop Projecting Feelings Onto Others

What is projection anyway? You don’t want to go out for the evening, but convince  yourself the other party actually doesn’t find you interesting and that’s why you’re cancelling. You are incredibly attracted to a colleague, but get angry at them for flirting with you. In a fight with your sister you stay very calm, pointing … [Read Entire Story]

Impulsivity – When You Just Can’t Stop Yourself And It’s Ruining Everything

We all know children who seem to lack the ability to think before they act, grabbing toys off other kids and saying mean things only to promise yet again they’ll be nice. But adults can suffer from impulsivity too. It might be hidden behind your good social skills or even closed doors, but if you … [Read Entire Story]

Why We Hurt the Ones We Love

It can sometime seem that the more we love a partner or friend, the more we hurt them. What makes this so often the case? 1. You trust them. When we become truly close to someone, we trust them enough we relax. Social conventions drop, and we are more of ourselves around them. Of course … [Read Entire Story]

Negative Thinking – Is It Sabotaging Your Life?

When younger, we can easily assume our thoughts are all that we are. But as adults most of us realise that thoughts are not only far from all that we are, they are often far from the truth. And without conscious effort to notice and control our thoughts, many of us [Read Entire Story]

Is Interdependency What Can Save Your Relationship?

What is interdependency? In psychology, interdependency is a way of relating that involves both parties being able to depend on each other in an egalitarian, non-demanding way. Understanding the different forms of dependency To understand interdependency, it can first help to examine the other ‘dependencies’ you might be more familiar with. Dependency is when you entirely rely … [Read Entire Story]

What is Childhood Trauma and Did You Experience It?

Childhood trauma is an event, situation, or environment you experienced as a child that left you feeling vulnerable and like you couldn’t count on the world or other people to keep you safe. For many, childhood trauma has the unfortunate consequence of affecting your ways of thinking and of relating to the world and others as … [Read Entire Story]