Lying in Relationships – Is it Really a Big Deal?

by Andrea Blundell How serious is lying in relationships – are you overreacting? And why do you keep attracting liars? Do we all lie? An oft-quoted American study on how often we lie a day came in at between once to twice (1.65 times, to be exact). It’s true that lying is part of the … [Read Entire Story]

Why Does Love Hurt? And How to Make it Stop

by Andrea Blundell Just out of a relationship, or love someone who doesn’t love you back? And can’t keep wondering, why does love hurt?  Why does love hurt? Feeling ‘in emotional pain’ isn’t just you being dramatic. Researchers have discovered that your brain processes emotional upset with the same brain circuitry that processes physical injury. … [Read Entire Story]

Ignorance Is Bliss – Or is It? The Cost of Playing Dumb

By Andrea Blundell “Ignorance is bliss”. Is it true? Or do we need to examine our belief that what we don’t know won’t hurt us, particularly when it comes to things like racism and inequality? What is ignorance, really? It’s easy to say that ignorance is simply ‘not knowing’. But sociology would argue otherwise. Ignorance … [Read Entire Story]

Reaching Out Hard? 12 Keys to Getting Support

by Andrea Blundell Read advice that tells you that if you feel low, just ‘reach out’? But attempts you have made (if any) have gone poorly and left you feeling bad? Reaching out is a skill that not all of us learned as a child or were encouraged to do. On a good note, skills … [Read Entire Story]

On Each Other’s Nerves? How to Navigate “Coronavirus Relationship Conflict”

by Andrea Blundell Is being cooped up during a pandemic about to ruin your relationship? How to navigate conflict when self-isolating together? 10 Ways to Navigate Conflict in Lockdown 1. Lower expectations. Thought coronavirus lockdown would be a time of great bonding, only to find it’s a time of great bickering? Cut yourself and the … [Read Entire Story]

Personal Power – 11 Ways to Grow Yours

by Andrea Blundell Want more personal power? Or just to stop feeling so helpless and lost? But not sure where to start?  What is personal power? Personal power is not about controlling others. This is social power. Personal power is instead about being totally detached from others and their opinions, and instead attached to your … [Read Entire Story]

When Do Bad Habits Become Addictions?

by Andrea Blundell Have a sneaky feeling that one of your bad habits might be getting out of control? It’s worth learning the difference between habit and addiction. But it’s not addictive Isn’t it? Just because your behaviour is not a typical addiction like alcohol, drugs, or gambling, or because everyone else around you uses … [Read Entire Story]

Keep Making the Same Mistake Again and Again?

From small things like continuing to overspend when you know you are in debt, to bigger issues like picking unhealthy relationships every time, what is it that drives you to keep making the same mistake?  Blame it on Your Brain? Our brains might be designed to repeat mistakes, creating what are called ‘mistake pathways’. Although … [Read Entire Story]

Letting Go and Moving On Hard? This Might Be Why

Holding onto partners and friendships long past their expiry date? Or can’t seem to leave a depressing job?  Letting go and moving on is never easy. But if you find it harder than most, it might mean there are deeper issues at play. Just not the letting go and moving on type?  Yes, personality can … [Read Entire Story]

Never Ask for Help? 9 Real Reasons You Always Go It Alone

by Andrea Blundell Are you the type who does everything by yourself? And even if it leaves you exhausted, never ask for help? Because it just seems easier somehow not to? Never allowing support can be a form of self-sabotage. And if you feel guilty or scared to ask for help, then there will be … [Read Entire Story]

How to Get the Most out of Therapy -12 Key Points

Starting therapy for the first time? Or been at it awhile, and not sure it’s working? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell looks at how to get the most out of therapy. How to get the most out of therapy Therapy is not a walk in the park. It can be complicated and challenging. So … [Read Entire Story]

Attention-Seeking Behaviour – Guiltier Than You Realise?

Have you been accused of attention-seeking behaviour? What might this look like, why would you do it, and what can be done to turn a need for attention into something more beneficial? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell addresses this important issue. What is attention-seeking behaviour? Some kinds of attention seeking are more obvious than … [Read Entire Story]

Feeling Stuck in Life? How to Actually Move Forward

Feeling stuck in life? Set resolutions that never work each year? Or just can’t get ahead no matter how hard you try? Editor and writer Andrea Blundell explores how to get unstuck. 9 Ways to stop feeling stuck and make progress at last 1. Accept that you might be behind the problem. The one thing [Read Entire Story]

Dreading Seeing Your Dysfunctional Family? How to Prepare

Dread seeing your dysfunctional family at the holidays? Does it go pear-shaped every year, leaving you mired in frustration and guilt? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores tips to help you navigate your family gathering. 7 Ways to Prepare for Seeing Your Dysfunctional Family 1. Lower your expectations. A lot. Yes, your great longing … [Read Entire Story]

“I Don’t Belong” – Can’t Find Your Place in the World?

Constantly left feeling, “I don’t belong?” Even when surrounded by so-called ‘friends’? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores the issue of ‘belongingness’.  What is belonging? Belonging is defined as feeling part of a group, whether that is a family, a set of friends, or a workplace. Psychologist Abraham Maslow, in his famous model about … [Read Entire Story]

Need to Be Right Every Time? Here’s Why (and the Real Cost)

Do people tell you that you are obsessed with being right, but you aren’t sure it’s true? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell investigates.  Signs you need to be right Balk at being told you are righteous? And immediately have reasons to protest why you are not? But reasons that, well…. put you above others? … [Read Entire Story]

Healthy Relationships – Is It One? Ingredients to Look For

In a healthy relationship… or not? Are you even that sure what one looks like? And why does healthy relating even matter? Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores this popular topic. Why healthy relationships are important We might want to think we ‘don’t need anyone’, but research would say otherwise. A study from Michigan State … [Read Entire Story]

Help, My Job is Killing Me! Work and Losing the Will to Live

Really unhappy at work and feel like your job is slowing killing you? If you are losing the will to live, it’s a serious issue. Editor and lead writer Andrea Blundell explores. *if you are feeling like you might really hurt yourself or others, please call emergency services or go to the nearest A&E. If … [Read Entire Story]

What is ‘Evidence-Based’ Therapy, Practise and Treatment?

You might have seen the term ‘evidence-based’ on different psychology and psychotherapy sites. It sounds impressive — but what does it really mean? A Definition of ‘Evidence-Based’ The term ‘evidence based’ means that the best available facts and information have been taken into account. It’s a term mostly used in connection to health services, although … [Read Entire Story]

Always Moving Too Fast in a Relationship? 9 Reasons Why

Most of us know that one couple who rushed in and stayed together. But for the most part, moving too fast in a relationship and relying on sudden infatuation is an experience that ends as quickly as it began – and often with a bump. What makes you the sort who always promises ‘never again’ but then can’t … [Read Entire Story]

New Year New You? Try This First

With all the focus on making resolutions for a ‘new year, new you‘ there is one crucial oversight. Progress doesn’t happen if we are stuck in a pattern, and patterns happen when we don’t resolve past experiences. If you find yourself setting the same New Years resolutions every January without ever truly achieving them – then … [Read Entire Story]

5 Reasons Your New Year’s Resolutions Never Work

Do you set the same New Years resolutions every January, but they never come to pass? There might be valid (and changeable) reasons why. 5 Reasons Your New year’s Resolutions Fail 1. You have Limiting Core beliefs. Core beliefs are deep-rooted assumptions about ourselves, others, and the world, that we form based on our experiences as a child. Unless … [Read Entire Story]

Dealing With Difficult People (Yes, Even Your In-Laws!) 

From cranky relatives to annoying colleagues, how can you best navigate difficult people this holiday season? 1. Show up calm. Yes, you can.  Being grounded when dealing with difficult people means the battle is half won – they are way less likely to trigger you. Sound impossible given the stress of the season? It isn’t. Resetting your … [Read Entire Story]

Keeping Secrets From Family – Is it Always Bad?

Keeping secrets from family is not only distracting, it can stop us from connecting to others and leave us lonely and misunderstood. But if you have a secret, do you owe it to your family to share it? Not necessarily. Why do we keep secrets ? There are, sadly, those amongst us who keep secrets … [Read Entire Story]